Some people claim that personal development – self improvement is hard work . Some should know better.
I am wary of such generalised statements for a number of reasons, some of which will be covered in this article.
Before I start please let me fill you in on a brief background. I had an extremely bad emotional, psychological and mental start in life due to very bad parenting (more information here). Today I experience joy and calmness which has been a lasting feature for many years now. In fact it is actually increasing. And all without drugs, alcohol or other ‘crutches’.
Some of what I have achieved could be described by some as being the results of ‘hard work’.
One of the problems with claiming that personal development is ‘hard work’ is that the term can be a key hindrance to the very people who need help the most. One of the reasons for this is that many people associate the words ‘hard work’ with unpleasant feelings and thoughts, both on the conscious and subconscious levels. Personal development does take effort, but whether this is seen as hard work depends partly on one’s viewpoint and how the term is conceptualised. You see, in many ways, personal development and growth is actually easy work – in fact this is one of the secrets that large numbers of people are unaware of because of societal conditioning, poor advice and other factors.
So how can I say that personal development is actually easy work?
Let me give you a simple example which will help to illustrate the concept. It is not difficult.
We as people are usually concerned about ourselves and running our own ‘business’ called ‘Me Inc’. From when we awake in the morning until we get to sleep at night, we tune into a ‘radio station’ called WII FM – ‘What’s In It For Me’.
When we start to see that by employing certain personal development techniques and thinking structures our life improves – (the benefits) – doing what is necessary can become a lot easier. As the fruit of what we are sowing starts to manifest as a result of what we are changing, then life becomes easier and further positive fuel is added to the fire. Obviously, it is a much better character trait to do things the right way for the right reasons, as opposed to just to get benefit; however, especially in the early stages of personal growth, doing things to gain a benefit is the more likely outcome. As time passes and the person becomes more alive and connected internally to the right philosophies, then the character can change in a more positive way also.
The simple equation then, is that when we understand the correlation between the self improvement technique and the benefit, the whole process appears much easier and more inviting. We are no longer telling ourselves that what we’re trying to do is hard work, which could be especially bothersome if we have always failed at ‘hard work’ before.
Clearly, I could go into a lot more detail about this concept however that is not the purpose of this article and I’m sure that most readers will understand the point.
Another reason I dislike calling personal development hard work has to do with the end – the goal – the incredible state of joy, calmness and peace that is available, and a certainty, if one follows the right path. Again, without going into a lot of detail, a key focus for people should be on the vision and knowledge of what their reality could and should be. And will be.
There are many more reasons why I dislike calling personal development hard work however I will close this article with one more. This one is a deeper aspect, however it is actually very simple. I will not cover it in detail here, choosing rather to focus on a very brief outline.
Over many years of personal experience both in my own life, and in counseling – coaching others, I have discovered the power of the visual to change lives in extremely marked ways, often in a very short space of time, with minimal effort. Using the power of the visual for personal development – self improvement in the correct way, is incredibly powerful and frankly, to call it hard work, is an insult and demonstrates a lack of understanding of an essential element of personal growth.
The visual can often incorporate the spiritual too – I ask you to consider the question: if one receives help from Spirit; how can that be hard work?
On a personal note, I feel a great responsibility to help as many people as I can to understand what really works.
Thank you for reading. And for those of you that are really desperate, there really is hope. Even if you’ve tried personal development techniques before. And even if you’ve been to see the ‘Gurus’ and it hasn’t worked.